Anxious Attachment Style

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An anxious attachment style is characterized by a strong desire for close relationships, but also a fear of rejection or abandonment. People with this attachment style may have a difficult time trusting others, and may become overly dependent on their romantic partners or close friends. They may also experience feelings of insecurity and anxiety in relationships, and may engage in behaviors such as constantly seeking reassurance or becoming possessive or jealous. This attachment style is thought to develop in childhood as a result of having a caregiver who was inconsistent, emotionally unavailable, or neglectful.

An anxious attachment style is a type of attachment pattern that develops in childhood as a result of inconsistent or insecure caregiving from parents or primary caregivers. Children with an anxious attachment style may become overly clingy or demanding of attention, and may become anxious or upset when their caregiver is not present. They may also have difficulty trusting others and may constantly seek reassurance in relationships. Anxious attachment can be treated by therapy and developing healthy communication and trust within relationships.

Dealing with an anxious attachment style can be challenging, but it is possible to make positive changes with the help of therapy and supportive relationships. Here are a few strategies that may be helpful:

  1. Seek therapy: A therapist can help you understand and work through the underlying causes of your anxious attachment style, and teach you new coping mechanisms and ways to develop healthy relationships.

  2. Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness practices, such as meditation and deep breathing, can help reduce anxiety and improve your ability to regulate your emotions.

  3. Learn to trust: Trusting others can be difficult for people with anxious attachment styles, but it is an important step in developing healthy relationships. A therapist can help you work through trust issues and teach you how to build trust in others.

  4. Communicate effectively: Being able to express your needs and feelings in a clear and healthy manner is important for all relationships, so working on effective communication is vital.

  5. Build a support network: Surrounding yourself with friends and family members who are supportive and understanding can help you feel more secure and less anxious in relationships.

It's important to note that change can take time, be kind to yourself and give it time. Remember that everyone has different journey and you might not be able to change everything in one day.

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